Although masturbation is seen as a natural act for boys, many girls are brought up with the idea that masturbation is wrong.
Since many people thought I was asexual and didn’t talk to me about sex, I kind of had to form my own idea about it.
I never thought there was anything wrong with it. I thought like, it was gross but I didn’t judge anyone who did it. For the longest time, I didn’t do it.
And then…I did it. And I’m not ashamed of it. But that’s all I’m going to tell you because I believe the rest is private matter.
This isn’t some kind of big confession. Many of the important people in my life know I do it because I’ve joked about it during a comedy set before. I don’t like hiding stuff; it makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong, which it isn’t. As a sexuality advocate, another reason I don’t hide it is to show people that there’s nothing wrong with it.
The way I see it is that it’s just another form of self-care and self-love. That’s it.
National Masturbation Month is “a necessary reminder that self-satisfaction is a healthy, accessible form of pleasure engaged in by almost everyone, of every gender and relationship status, at some time of (or throughout) their lives: It’s relaxing, allows people to learn more about their own sexual response, is a basic recommendation of sex therapists that can help people with many different sexual concerns, relieves menstrual cramps, and helps keep the genitals fully functional. On top of that, it’s the safest form of sex a person can have.”
To add a disability vibe to this post (haha, get it?), here is a video by YouTuber Erika Lynae about sex toys for people with disabilities: